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24-Dec-2017 21:44

The good news, at least according to the work of psychologists and sex-ratio pioneers Marcia Guttentag and Paul Secord, is that people tend to have better sex when ratios skew female. Women frequently wind up being treated as sex objects, and men are more inclined to exercise the option to delay marriage and play the field.

As I note in my book, today’s uneven gender ratios “add up to sexual nirvana for heterosexual men, but for heterosexual women — especially those who put a high priority on getting married and having children in wedlock — they represent a demographic time bomb.” Of course, these lopsided numbers might not matter if young, college-educated women become more willing to date — and, eventually, marry — across socioeconomic lines.

However, gender ratios within the LGBT community do affect different-sex dating, oddly enough.

According to Gary Gates, a UCLA researcher and a leading expert on LGBT demographics, cities known for being LGBT-friendly (New York, Washington, Miami, etc.) have disproportionate numbers of gay men, but not of lesbians.

Dating and marrying across socioeconomic lines — “mixed-collar” marriages, if you will — is one possible remedy.

I’d also urge marriage-minded women not to put off getting serious about dating because the math will only get worse over time.

Consider Santa Clara County, Calif., home to Silicon Valley and the only well-populated area in the country where male college grads outnumber female ones by a significant margin. “I think it’s pretty good for the girls,” one single woman told the San Jose Mercury News a few years back.When there are plenty of marriageable men, dating culture emphasizes courtship and romance, and men generally must earn more to attract a wife.But when gender ratios skew toward women, as they do today among college grads, the dating culture becomes more sexualized.Indeed, there are 1.5 million more non-college-educated men than women among Americans age 22 to 29.Bottom line: New York City women looking for a match would be better off, statistically at least, at a fireman’s bar in Staten Island than a wine bar on the Upper East Side.

Consider Santa Clara County, Calif., home to Silicon Valley and the only well-populated area in the country where male college grads outnumber female ones by a significant margin. “I think it’s pretty good for the girls,” one single woman told the San Jose Mercury News a few years back.When there are plenty of marriageable men, dating culture emphasizes courtship and romance, and men generally must earn more to attract a wife.But when gender ratios skew toward women, as they do today among college grads, the dating culture becomes more sexualized.Indeed, there are 1.5 million more non-college-educated men than women among Americans age 22 to 29.Bottom line: New York City women looking for a match would be better off, statistically at least, at a fireman’s bar in Staten Island than a wine bar on the Upper East Side.As I argue in “DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” the college and post-college hookup culture is a byproduct, not of Tinder or Facebook (another target of modern scolds), but of shifting demographics among the college-educated.