Geek online dating advice

19-Dec-2017 03:51

Even though he’s apt to vanish for hours, has a strange sense of humor, doesn’t like you touching his stuff, and often doesn’t listen when you’re talking directly to him, he’s a keeper. My advice: Map the things he’s bad at to the things he loves.You love to travel, but your nerd would prefer to hide in his cave for hours on end chasing The High. First, you need to convince him that you’re going to do your best to recreate his cave in his new surrounding.It’s the end of the day, and you and your nerd are hanging out on the couch. There isn’t a computer anywhere nearby, and you’re giving your nerd the daily debrief. Expect active involvement from your nerd when you trip the relevance flag.“Spent an hour at the post office trying to ship that package to your mom, and then I went down to that bistro — you know — the one next to the flower shop, and it’s closed. If you trip the irrelevance flag, look for verbal punctuation announcing his judgment of irrelevance.

There are plenty of she nerds out there for which these observations equally apply. It’s clichéd, but a nerd is defined by his computer, and you need to understand why. A nerd has a mental model of the hardware and the software in his head.Yeah, we love to stare at games with a bazillion polygons, but we get the same high out of playing Bejeweled, getting our Night Elf to Level 70, or endlessly tinkering with a Rubik’s Cube. This created a basic bitterness in his psyche that is the foundation for his humor. The basic mental move here is the context switch, and your nerd is the king of the context switch.Now, combine this basic distrust of everything with your nerd’s other natural talents, and you’ll realize that he sees humor as another game. First, there’s watching TV with you where the two of you sit and watch one show. The ability to instantly context switch also comes from a life on the computer. All of it might be cool, but your nerd doesn’t believe any of what you’re saying is relevant.It’s another juicy cliché to say that nerds love video games, but that’s not what they love.A video game is just one more system where your nerd’s job is to figure out the rules that define it, which will enable him to beat it. Your nerd spent a lot of his younger life being an outcast because of his strange affinity with the computer. He knows the compelling parts of the arcs and is mentally editing his versions while watching all three.

There are plenty of she nerds out there for which these observations equally apply. It’s clichéd, but a nerd is defined by his computer, and you need to understand why. A nerd has a mental model of the hardware and the software in his head.

Yeah, we love to stare at games with a bazillion polygons, but we get the same high out of playing Bejeweled, getting our Night Elf to Level 70, or endlessly tinkering with a Rubik’s Cube. This created a basic bitterness in his psyche that is the foundation for his humor. The basic mental move here is the context switch, and your nerd is the king of the context switch.

Now, combine this basic distrust of everything with your nerd’s other natural talents, and you’ll realize that he sees humor as another game. First, there’s watching TV with you where the two of you sit and watch one show. The ability to instantly context switch also comes from a life on the computer. All of it might be cool, but your nerd doesn’t believe any of what you’re saying is relevant.

It’s another juicy cliché to say that nerds love video games, but that’s not what they love.

A video game is just one more system where your nerd’s job is to figure out the rules that define it, which will enable him to beat it. Your nerd spent a lot of his younger life being an outcast because of his strange affinity with the computer. He knows the compelling parts of the arcs and is mentally editing his versions while watching all three.

You need to appeal to his deep love of discovering new content and help him understand that there may be no greater content fire hose than waking up in a hotel overlooking the Grand Canal in Venice where you don’t speak a word of Italian. You might’ve noticed your nerd’s strange relation to food. There were charts tracking my workouts, there were graphs tracking my weight, and there was the exercise. Otherwise, it’s just another thought for the irrelevant bucket. If you’ve got a seriously shy nerd on your hands, try this: How many friends does he have in Facebook? He can do this because the interaction is via a system he understands — the computer. Just because he can’t look your best friend straight in the eye doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to know what makes her tick, but you need to be the social buffer — the translation layer.